May 16 2018
You shouldn’t have to sacrifice your sex life just because you’re on your period. Unfortch, period sex can sometimes be a real annoyance — from the politics of tampon timing, thinking about mess cleanup, and you know, just generally feeling like your personal comfort has been de-prioritized while your body goes through a Very Taxing Thing. Thankfully, there are some fixes that can help make period sex even better, so you don’t have to plan your whole life around bleed week even more than you already do.
1. The Problem:
Excusing Yourself to Take Your Tampon Out Is a Pain in the Ass
Sex-able Menstrual Cup
The delicate dance of waiting to take your tampon out at just the right time is one of the least recognized yet most annoying things about period sex. Even if you are 100% down to just put a sheet down, you still need to remove a tampon before sex. Take it out too early, and you’re bleeding through your pants and kicking yourself for being so impatient. Wait too long into foreplay and it gets harder and harder to pull yourself away and run to the bathroom with every passing second. But what if I told you there was a way to NEVER have to do the lame-o bathroom field trip again?
Certain menstrual cups like the Ziggy Cup or Soft Cup let you have sex without having to be removed. Unlike traditional bell-shaped menstrual cups that sort of vacuum themselves inside your vagina (picture a Diva Cup), these style of cups are more like round discs that sit higher inside your body, on your cervix, keeping the blood from flowing down. It’s similar to how diaphragms look, though THESE MENSTRUAL CUPS ARE NOT A FORM OF BIRTH CONTROL. They can also be used to hold up to 12 hours of blood, and it’s probably the most mess-free period sex you can imagine. Odds are, your partner won’t even know unless you tell them. You can buy the disposable Soft Cup at most drugstores, or invest in the Ziggy Cup for a reusable option.
2. The Problem
You’d Like to Remove Excess Period Junk From Your Vulva But Can’t Jump Into a Shower At This Very Moment
Yeah okay, I hate the term “baby wipes” as much as anyone else, but the alternative here is like, “intimacy wipes” so whatever. You know what I mean. While you don’t have anything to be ashamed of during your period, there’s also nothing wrong with wanting to do an extra once-over down there before inviting someone else to dive in headfirst. Pick a wipe that’s free of fragrances (bad for anything vagina-related), or alcohol, and you should be good to go. Pro-tip, you can also use baby wipes for taking off makeup — they’re wayyyy cheaper than makeup wipes and like, you know it’s the exact same thing, you really do.
3. The Problem:
The Inconvenience of Getting Blood on Your Sheets Is Enough To Make You…Just Not
While you might think red or dark sheets are the way to go, I’m here to tell you from experience that NO, this is not the answer. While a blood stain on a darker color might not have the same halloween-like effect as red on white, you’ll still see it when you’ve got one darker spot than the rest of the material. Go for something busy, so your eyes won’t dwell on a stain if there is one. And don’t worry, you can cover up the loudest pattern with a solid color duvet or comforter anyways, so it’s way less of a jarring lifestyle change than you’d think.
4. The Problem:
You’re Horny But Wanna Give Your Vagina a Rest
A Clitoral Vibrator
Good news: menstruating should have absolutely no effect on your orgasms whatsoever. In fact, there’s no better time than to teach your partner about the wonders of the female clitoris than when you’ve got blood coming out of your vagina, TBH. Keep your tampon in, take it out, whatever! Whether you go for a bullet vibrator, this fancy clitoral stimulator that uses touchless sonic waves, or a trusty Magic Wand that can also do a number on your achy period muscles, get ready to shock the world when you have a super strong orgasm without any internal stimulation.
5. The Problem:
You’re Ready for Pound Town But Your Cervix Is Not
A Liberator Wedge Pillow
When you’re on your period, your cervix is lower than normal. So while rough sex might typically be your jam, it’s probably not going to feel the same when you’re menstruating and your über sensitive cervix keeps getting knocked on over and over again. Invest in a sex pillow to keep things comfy. The classic Liberator Wedge allows for unlimited creativity and can turn even plain ol’ missionary or doggy style into a way better experience.
6. The Problem:
You Just Generally Feel Gross
A Massage Candle
While massage candles might be kinda extra for everyday use, they’re actually perfect for period sex. These candles are designed to be melted down so their “wax” can be used as massage oil. Not only are you probably extra sore and in need of pampering during this time, but using a massage candle can encourage you and your partner to slow it down and focus on the foreplay for even better sex. We really like Lelo’s candles which come in ~expensive smelling~ scent combinations like Vanilla & Créme De Cacao, Snow Pear & Cedarwood, and Black Pepper & Pomegranate. A little ambience never hurt anyone!
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